RESOURCES
It takes courage and maturity to collect and hold true all of the information about pleasure, real beauty, and to truly see yourself with kindness.
Below you'll find trusted sources for information to explore a broad range of intimate topics.
Sex ed
Hello! of course Planned Parenthood has alot of info online & in the clinic!! 🙂
28 Sex-Positive books for readers of all ages!
Sexplanations with Dr. Doe smart & super cute youtube channel with curiosity & real talk about all the the things!
Karen B K Chan is a fantastic educator with brief & engaging videos that talk about things that are real, difficult & kind.
Info for young people about puberty, reproduction, relationships, sex & sexuality
My Sex Professor : website of Dr. Debby Herbinick who lectures, and wrote the book Read My Lips about vulvas/vaginas
Quick sex parts video fun illustration that some ideas we may have had based on porn are bs.
Honest Sex Ed for young people & advocates who care about all around good info
John Oliver’s piece on Sex -Ed! The full twenty minutes are 100% worth watching. But the end…the end is a must-see, starting at around 17:45.
OH JOY SEX TOY! is a comic sex ed site with everything! It updates Tuesdays and it is for 18+ readers
“This guide can help disabled people (and their partners) on their journey toward self-love, better communication, and confidence.” –– Alice Wong, Founder and Director, Disability Visibility Project
SEX ED
SEX ED for PARENTS
Sex ed for PARENTS
Scarleteen’s website is a #1 go-to for trusted info for both teens and parents!
Every Body Curious is a fun and illuminating web series for young people (and their parents!) that explores the birds and the bees with ease in today’s digital landscape.
Guerrilla Sex Ed – online resource attempting to increase accessibility to sexuality education for those who are not receiving comprehensive, inclusive education within their school systems.
Sex Positive Families is inclusive, sex positive sexual health resources for every age and stage or https://guerrillasexed.org/blog/
Characteristics of Effective Sex Education
Our Whole Lives (OWL) Lifespan Sexuality Education Curricula
Sex, etc. : website for teens & sex ed… it’s really well done! It includes activism stuff too!
Peggy Orenstein wrote Girls & Sex, Boys & Sex & gave TED Talk inspired by her book.
Planned Parenthood Consent 101 web series or their page about consent.
Vulva education for kids
SUPPORT
Exhale: After abortion support with a hotline
It Get’s Better: Inspiring hope for LGBT youth facing harassment
Domestic violence survivor support center NC. support in Durham
LGBT near me or the LGBT hotline offer a range of support & resources
Hotlines and Help:
Trans Lifeline at 877-565-8860
The Trevor Project’s 24/7/365 Lifeline at 866-4-U-TREVOR
The National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-TALK
LGBT National Youth Talkline 800-246-7743
SUPPORT
PLEASURE
Pleasure
OMGyes Hands on pleasure education for people touching vulvas.
Betty Dodson! My first book about was her Sex For One title.
MoSex: Variability of the female orgasm
My Sex Professor : website of Dr. Debby Herbinick who lectures, and wrote the book Read My Lips about vulvas/vaginas
ART / VISUAL
Sophia Wallace : Conceptual Artist. “The Cliteracy Project” exploring female sexual gratification.also check out the “Clit Rodeo”
NuProject – photography of real women, nude, in their space
Re-envisioning the Female Body: college students doing a controversial display of 12 vulvas
Vaginas of the World : A tumbler for vulva pics posted by randoms
Petals book of labia
Jezebel: Article about Barbie & labiaplasty.
Betty Dodson draws the internal & external clitoris and parts of the vulva.
Vulovaginal what!? Cartoons to explain about these things!
Kickstarter: Vulva Poster (great example for kickstarter) by Dr. Debby Herbenick
ART / VISUAL
GENDER
GENDER
The Gender Book is only the start of your gender education!
Check out some of the books, groups, articles, and websites on the Gender Book resources page to learn more.
Early to Bed : gender gear
Genderbread Person v4.0 : A teaching tool for breaking the big concept of gender down into bite-sized, digestible pieces.
Miss Representation: The media is selling the idea that girls’ and women’s value lies in their youth, beauty, and sexuality and not in their capacity as leaders.
The Society Pages: Lisa Wade’s blog on all things gender and sociology
Interview with Janet Mock: Video highlighting insensitivity of questions to trans women.
Birth Justice: The SisterSong relief funds are intended for Black and other birthing people of color, especially Queer and Trans folks in need of support during their pregnancy and within one year.
SEXPERTS
Betty Dodson Bodysex workshops
WOCSHUN has a directory of female sexuality experts who are people of color.
These little e-Guides are written by credentialed experts who are passionate about their subjects and respected in their fields. Many are famous authors you might already know of.
Oh Joy Sex Toy: curated experts teach with wonderful cartoons by Erika Moen
Stella Harris‘s book recommendations
Sexplanations with Dr. Doe (super cute!)
Caroline Heldman on Sexy Empowering: Ted Talk Unpacking sexual empowerment and objectification culture.
Barbara Carrellas wrote Urban Tantra & her resource guide/website is full of links to courses & teachers in all areas of sexuality, BDSM, LGBTQ, Tantra and more.
SEXPERTS
PORN
PORN
Lust Cinema Feminist porn director Erika Lust’s goal is “to create new waves in adult cinema” by showing “all of the passion, intimacy, love, and lust in sex.” To do so, Lust focuses on the feminist viewpoint, as well as all the senses, meaning Lust Cinema has some seriously sensualmaterial.
Indie Porn Revolution is all about “subversive smut made by ladies, artists, and queers” so you can take your pick from a wide array of content featuring different perspectives. (Finally, a break from the male gaze.)
Many of their videos also focus on safe sex, which isn’t something you see very often in mainstream porn. Yay for making safe sex sexy!
Since Bellesa is “porn by women,” their films put the focus on what women want to see, feel, and experience during sex — instead of focusing on the typical male perspective. There are lots of videos to peruse, as well as lists upon lists of erotic stories to read, which are submitted by the community.
Bright Desire offers “feminist porn for women and men.” Their goal is to “move beyond the old clichés, boundaries, and negativity of standard, old-style pornography and to offer something fresh, inclusive, and intelligent.” Look through categories such as “straight,” “queer,” couples,” or peruse through a list of performers.
Founded by director Shine Louise Houston, PinkLabel.tv is all about up-and-coming independent adult filmmakers. Houston has said, “I believe there’s a lot of room and need to create adult content that’s real, that’s respectful, and powerful. I think it’s the perfect place to become political. It’s a place where money, sex, media, and ethics converge.”
While feminist porn doesn’t always equate to slow, sensual, and romantic, Froclicme offers exactly that. Started by Anna Richards, it caters to folks who tend to get turned off by mainstream porn. Scroll through their library of videos, audio, and stories to find precisely what strikes your fancy.
Vaughn often recommends OnlyFans, seeing it allows anyone to share their own content with subscribers (or fans) as a way of making money. Specifically, “the content that sex workers are making and selling directly is stuff they’re excited to create for their audience,” she says, which is what makes it the most ethical — and feminist — type of porn.
If you’re more into audio than visual, check out Dispea, a female-founded startup that shares sexy stories you can lie back and listen to. The search feature allows you to find something for any mood, whether you’re in bed alone, with a partner, or about to head out on a date. According to their site, “People in our stories are empowered in their sexual, social, and romantic experiences. Sex is communicative and pleasure doesn’t sound performed. These choices seem simple, but they’re radical, and have implications far beyond the bedroom!”
Source: Alice Vaughn, sexpert and host of the podcast Two Girls One Mic
Sex positive
28 Sex-Positive books for readers of all ages!
Pamela Madsen : writer, speaker and advocate for sex positive culture. She is all about finding ones innate sexuality. She has a book, she is a speaker, and she has a blog where right now she is exploring a lot of sexcological workshopping. Sounds interesting! She also has “sensual retreats” for women
Iris Krasnow‘s book “Sex After” women share how intimacy changes as life changes
SEX POSITIVE
ACTIVISM / POLITICS
ACTIVISM / POLITICS
15 Organizations Whose Vital Work Supports Black Moms & Families Every Day
Book Publisher who has many great titles, including “Pleasure Activism” & “Yes means Yes” https://www.akpress.org/pleasure-activism.html
Sex, etc. : website for teens & sex ed! It includes activism stuff too.
Everyday Feminism‘s school for social justice
Colorlines, gender & sexuality. We work to advance racial justice through research, media & practice.
Jaclyn Friedman is a writer, educator and activist, and creator of four books with a focus on collectively transforming the systems and institutions invested in keeping women sexually servile.
Laci Green was a YouTube sexpert with lots of fun ways to talk about topics untouched, she’s since become focused on the bigger picture in our culture.
Peggy Orenstein NY Times bestselling author of Girls & Sex, Boys & Sex & many more good titles.