I talk about the difference between the vulva and vagina all the time while I am waxing clients. It’s crazy to me that we ladies know the basics about men’s parts & not much about our own form or function. So here is some good info to get you up to speed! Once you know this it all makes so much more sense.
There are 2 teaching points to take you all the way: First the video link above that does a nice job of covering the basics about the “what & where” as well as feelings about lady parts. Then a blog post below is about what I sometimes call the “ladyboner” taught with illustrations by Sheri Winston who’s book & lectures are the source of my info on this topic. Learn from the source especially about something that is top priority info – the clitoris and pleasure network! I sell her books at Moss if you’d like to learn more!